SENSITIVITY OR INSECURITY: which one really is it?
Patriarchal cultures apparently do not understand the feminine psyche very well. In my previous article I explored the fallacy surrounding the understanding of emotions. I now feel it necessary to delve into this obvious discrepancy surrounding the definition of sensitivity, especially in regards to the current model that states that it is a cause of anger or of knee jerk reactionary responses. Like in the other article on emotions, sensitivity is in fact a byproduct of emotions. Hurt feelings and anger are not related people. As we stated earlier in the other article, anger is from the brain stem and emotions reside in the brain proper, higher up in the brain function hierarchy.
When a baby cries it is usually out of anger, fear or stress from not having needs met. Hurt feelings for the immature do not get sent to the higher places in the brain since they are not well developed in the young. So hurt feelings go to the brain stem and cause a knee jerk response or anger. Babies also cry essentially from not being able to understand what is going on, causing stress or confusion. Women cry for completely opposite reasons resulting from caring and greater stimulus processing in the emotion filled brain. They are more human in other words. Men have more physical strength and therefore must provide protection for women, not beat or abuse them. Infants need experience and growth to understand life in better terms. The baby says in his/her own way, “I do not understand what this is or what you are doing so I am balling my eyes out until you make it nice and sweet for me”. Babies are terribly insecure and not overly sensitive in this regard.
If you do not have any experience and do not have the brain apparatus for storage of it, then you are by definition, insecure about everything. It does not take much for you to get upset and cry. This explains why Santa Claus is a terrifying experience for many toddlers. “Who is this ugly fat man with all this red on and beard in my face, trying to kiss me or talk to me? Go away Santa!!! Children and babies love Mommy for she is the only one strong and mature enough to be kind and sweet to this terribly insecure human being. The estrogen of pregnancy converts women into ultimate nurturers and protectors. If not for the bond between mother and child babies would not survive or develop properly. Many studies have delved into the problems of lack of love and nurturing for babies. Mother and love are the foundation for brain development and socialization of all children. Mom, the solar system, and her children on Earth are the center of the entire universe. All else revolves around this most important entity. Yes, the solar system is the female and the universe the male in the whole world. Without mom and love the world would be creating sociopaths. The asteroids and comets that have pelted the womb of Earth are the sperm or genetic material that have caused the fertilization of the uterus or Earth that started all life on the planet. So all DNA that is masculine comes from the depths of space. Hence it is the ultimate responsibility of society to provide for the foundation for mom to do the most important job ever created in the world…..motherhood. The most important job for men is to protect the mother and children. Poverty of women is a crime against civilization.
So, it is clear now that the insecure types are the ones who are the most immature of us, for they either did not have good mothering or they got a bad set of genes somewhere. An insecure or mentally unstable mom can be the source of the DNA and the poor mothering in these circumstances. In contrast, estrogen in ample supply in the mother will make for a better mother and also will make for good estrogen effects in the child and later as an adult. Breast feeding promotes continued estrogen effects in mothers and may in fact prevent post partum depression. You see, it is emotions which are a byproduct of estrogens that make for a secure person….a sensitive person. Like in the other article, emotions or sensitivity cause all stimuli to be sent past the brain stem and into the cerebral cortex for processing. All adult brains both male and female send stimuli to the brain proper….the largest receptor in nature. Brain stem dominance results from faulty wiring connecting to the brain…mental illness or childhood. Childhood is more masculine while adulthood is maturity or more feminine. All delusions result from faulty wiring preventing input from being processed in experience….the real world…the brain. Becoming an adult promotes better wiring and decreases the delusions and psychosis of childhood. Children do not have “powerful” imaginations. Imagination is thought. Instead they have faulty imaginations due to faulty connections to the real world in the brain. Be a parent to your child unless you, too, are psychotic.
Men generally are positive charges and women are negative or passive charges. It is clear as day that a negative or passive charge will create for more thoughtfulness and the positive one will create for more action……to chase the negative one. But the one who chases is the one with less self-control. Yes, nature has played a trick on the unwary. What appears weak or passive is actually the most powerful force in nature. Hence, sensitive persons are strong persons psychologically for they will send input to the brain for better processing and a more sensible (sensitive) response. Those who are not sensitive will have the input to be processed in the brain stem like those in the animal kingdom. So, if a person gets mad easily, they are not being sensitive. They are being the opposite of it…..insensitive. They are insecure as hell and do not have good self-knowledge and insight. Insecure people become egotists, narcissists and power mad individuals. This is compensation for self-loathing and profound insecurity. One psychotic patient I worked with would often say, “I am the hero”. When asked what he is the hero of, he would say, “the hero of zero”. This last phrase is a profound statement about the mentality of the mentally ill straight from the mouth of a psychotic. They are egomaniacal…the hero….but also profoundly insecure…the hero of zero.
So now, if someone gets angry with you for what you say and you think it inappropriate, don’t say they are too sensitive. Instead say, they are too insecure, insensitive, immature …..or just plain crazy. Sensitive people think. Rarely do they become angry.